BULLYING

Fall 2015

Pelkey

BULLYING

“…what are you going to do?”

RAISE YOURHAND IF YOUHAVE EVERBULLIEDSOMEONE.

1 out of 4

kids is bullied or abusedby another youth.

1 out of 5

admits to being a bully.

Bullying

RBullying is unwanted, aggressivebehavior among school agedchildren (and adults) that involvesa real or perceived powerimbalance. The behavior isrepeated, or has the potential tobe repeated, over time.

Types of Bullying

RThere are three types of bullying:

RVerbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:

RTeasing

RName-calling

RInappropriate sexual comments

RTaunting

RThreatening to cause harm

RSocial bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation orrelationships. Social bullying includes:

RLeaving someone out on purpose

RTelling other children not to be friends with someone

RSpreading rumors about someone

REmbarrassing someone in public

RPhysical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:

RHitting/kicking/pinching

RSpitting

RTripping/pushing

RTaking or breaking someone’s things

RMaking mean or rude hand gestures

RThere are three types of bullying:

RVerbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:

RTeasing

RName-calling

RInappropriate sexual comments

RTaunting

RThreatening to cause harm

RSocial bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation orrelationships. Social bullying includes:

RLeaving someone out on purpose

RTelling other children not to be friends with someone

RSpreading rumors about someone

REmbarrassing someone in public

RPhysical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:

RHitting/kicking/pinching

RSpitting

RTripping/pushing

RTaking or breaking someone’s things

RMaking mean or rude hand gestures

Cyber Bullying

R• Cyber Bullying - any type of bullying that is carriedout by electronic medium. There are 7 types including:

R1. Text message bullying

R2. Picture/video clip bullying via mobile phone cameras

R3. Phone call bullying via mobile phones

R4. E-mail bullying

R5. Chat-room bullying

R6. Bullying through instant messaging (IM)

R7. Bullying via websites

R• Cyber Bullying - any type of bullying that is carriedout by electronic medium. There are 7 types including:

R1. Text message bullying

R2. Picture/video clip bullying via mobile phone cameras

R3. Phone call bullying via mobile phones

R4. E-mail bullying

R5. Chat-room bullying

R6. Bullying through instant messaging (IM)

R7. Bullying via websites

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONE WHOHURTS SOMEONEELSE BYINTENTIONALLYPUSHING ORHITTING.

I’ll show you!

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONEWHO THREATENSYOU WITH A FISTIN YOUR FACE.

You better give me your

cell phone or else…

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONEWHO TEASESWITH MEANWORDS.

No one likes you.

Why don’t you just go away?

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS ALSOSOMEONE WHOJOINS IN THELAUGHING WHENSOMEONE ELSETEASES.

Look at that

kid! He is such

a dork!

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS ALSOSOMEONE WHOMAKES A POINTNOT TO LET YOUSIT WITH THEMAT LUNCH.

You can’t sit

at our table.

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS ALSOSOMEONE WHOEXCLUDESOTHERS FROMTHEIR GROUP ORACTIVITY.

You can’t

play with us.

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS ALSOSOMEONE WHOHURTS YOURFEELINGS ONPURPOSE BYROLLING THEIREYES AT YOU.

Ughhh…

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONEWHO USES THEIRPOPULARITY TOBOSS OTHERSAROUND,TELLING OTHERSWHAT THEYSHOULD ORSHOULDN’T DO.

Now remember, Sheila’s out-

No one needs to talk to her or

include her.

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONEWHO TRIES TOCONTROL THEIRFRIEND AND NOTLET THEM SPENDTIME WITHOTHERS.

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONEWHO SPREADSBAD RUMORSABOUT OTHERS.

She makes me so mad.

Who does she think she is?

Do you know that she used

to date that nerd

named Bert?

A PERSON USINGBULLYING BEHAVIORS…

RIS SOMEONEWHO GOSSIPSOR REPEATS BADRUMORS ABOUTOTHERS.

Do you know what I heard about…

RAISE YOURHAND NOW IFYOU THINK YOUHAVE USEDBULLYBEHAVIOR.

LETS LOOK AT THEBEHAVIORS WE NEEDTO ADD TO OURBULLY BEHAVIORLIST

It’s not OK to:

Push, hit, hurt othersphysically, threaten,intimidate…

’

…

AND IT’S ALSO NOT OK TO:

•Tease in a hurtful way

•Join in laughing when someone else is making funof someone

•Exclude others from the group or activities

•Roll our eyes intending to hurt

•Boss our friends, telling them what they can andcan’t do

•Control and manipulate others

•Spread rumors about others

DID THE PICTURES WE LOOKED ATA MOMENT AGO STIR UP ANYTHOUGHTS OF?

Oh…I’ve acted like that before…

Yeah…that’s happened to me before.

I saw that happening to someone else.

Oh…I’ve acted like that before…

Yeah…that’s happened to me before.

I saw that happening to someone else.

3 ROLES IN A BULLYINGSITUATION

RTHE AGGRESSOR

RTHE TARGET OR VICTIM

RTHE BYSTANDER

THE AGGRESSOR-

Is the one who is doing the BullyingBehavior

THE TARGET OR VICTIM-

Is the person being bullied

THE BYSTANDER-

Is the person watching/seeing the bullyinghappen

DO YOU THINK GIRLSTYPICALLY BULLYDIFFERENTLY THANBOYS?

HOW?

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUARE THE BYSTANDER:(Choosing to ignore the bullying is the same as supporting thebehavior)

1.Refuse to be an audience for the bullying incident

2. If appropriate and safe, ask the bully to stop (Usewords like “Knock it off!” or “Cut it out!”)

3.Be a friend to the victim, invite them to talk with you(Say, “Come play with us” or Can I sit with you atlunch?”)

4.Support the victim-write the victim a note or tellhim/her that you don’t agree with the bully

5.Tell an adult (There is a difference between TATTLINGand TELLING: the IN/OUT Rule)

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUHAVE BULLY BEHAVIOR?

1.Realize and identify the problem behavior

2.Acknowledge that you need to change the behavior

3.Apologize for the negative behavior

4.Use the Bully Behavior Change Worksheet

5.Use your conflict management skills to handle theproblem.

6.Increase your empathy and concern for others

7.Use your leadership skills to help rather than hurt.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUARE A TARGET…SO YOUDON’T BECOME THE VICTIM

1.Use your assertive skills to tell the person to stop.

2.Don’t believe the bully- the bully only has the power ifyou give it.

3.Value yourself

4.Report bullying incidents that are harmful,dangerous, or destructive.

5.Find safe places and people.

6.Make new friends and try new activities.

Early Signs of Bullying

•Victims have trouble sleeping

•Try to avoid school

•Claim illness when nothingseems wrong

•Want you to drive themplaces when they could walk

•School work slides

•Avoid clubs, after schoolactivities

•Come home from schoolunhappy and won’t say why

•Possessions frequently get“lost” or damaged

•Become moody, anxious,withdrawn

•Lose their appetitie

•Become more aggressive andstart bullying others

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1.Impulsive

2.Dominant

3. Lack empathy

4.Have difficulty with rules

5.Usually have a small group of“fans”.

Understanding childrenwho bully:

Understanding childrenwho are bullied:

1.Usually timid

2.Lack confidence

3.Are easily manipulated by peers

4.Have difficulty with eye contact

Bullies COUNTON the inactionof peers/adults.

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How to Tell If You BullyOthers…

RThere's a boy or a girl (or maybe more thanone) whom you've repeatedly shoved, orpunched or physically pushed around in amean way just because you felt like it.

RYou had someone else hurt someone you don'tlike.

RYou've spread a nasty rumor about someone.

RThere's a boy or a girl (or maybe more thanone) whom you've repeatedly shoved, orpunched or physically pushed around in amean way just because you felt like it.

RYou had someone else hurt someone you don'tlike.

RYou've spread a nasty rumor about someone.

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How to Tell If You BullyOthers…

RYou and your friends have regularly kept oneor more kids from hanging out or playing withyou.

RYou've teased people in a mean way.

RYou've been part of a group that did any ofthese things.

RYou and your friends have regularly kept oneor more kids from hanging out or playing withyou.

RYou've teased people in a mean way.

RYou've been part of a group that did any ofthese things.

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How Bullying Hurts

RIt can mess up a kid's future. Young peoplewho bully are more likely than those who don't bully toskip school and drop out of school.

RIt scares some people so much that theyskip school. As many as 160,000 students may stayhome on any given day.

RIt can lead to huge problems later in life.Children who bully are more likely to get into fights,vandalize property, and drop out of school.

RIt can mess up a kid's future. Young peoplewho bully are more likely than those who don't bully toskip school and drop out of school.

RIt scares some people so much that theyskip school. As many as 160,000 students may stayhome on any given day.

RIt can lead to huge problems later in life.Children who bully are more likely to get into fights,vandalize property, and drop out of school.

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What You Can Do AboutBullying…

RIf you are a BYSTANDER

→ Report the bullying to an adult

→ Support someone who is being bullied

→ Stand up to the person doing thebullying

→ Don’t join in

→ Don’t try to fight the bully

RIf you are a BYSTANDER

→ Report the bullying to an adult

→ Support someone who is being bullied

→ Stand up to the person doing thebullying

→ Don’t join in

→ Don’t try to fight the bully

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What You Can Do AboutBullying…

RIf you are a VICTIM

→ Always tell an adult

→ Stay in a group

→ If it feels safe, try to stand up to the personwho is bullying you

→ If you are being bullied on-line, don't reply

→ Join clubs or take part in activities whereyou'll meet other kids.

→ Don’t think it’s your fault

RIf you are a VICTIM

→ Always tell an adult

→ Stay in a group

→ If it feels safe, try to stand up to the personwho is bullying you

→ If you are being bullied on-line, don't reply

→ Join clubs or take part in activities whereyou'll meet other kids.

→ Don’t think it’s your fault

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What You Can Do AboutBullying…

RIf you are a BULLY

→ Think about what you're doing ... andhow it affects others.

oput yourself in their shoes

othink about how it must make them feel

oand just don't do it

→ Talk to an adult

RIf you are a BULLY

→ Think about what you're doing ... andhow it affects others.

oput yourself in their shoes

othink about how it must make them feel

oand just don't do it

→ Talk to an adult

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PWCS and Bullying

Rhttp://pwcs.schoolfusion.us/modules/groups/homepagefiles/c ms/493839/File/Regulations/R733.01-1.pdf?sessionid=d99e1b58d5dd430eb75f41f68fa563d0

Statistics about Bullying

ROne out of every four students (22%) report being bullied during theschool year (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2015).

R19.6% of high school students in the US report being bullied at schoolin the past year. 14.8% reported being bullied online (Center for Disease Control, 2014).

R64 percent of children who were bullied did not report it; only 36percent reported the bullying (Petrosina, Guckenburg, DeVoe, andHanson, 2010).

RMore than half of bullying situations (57 percent) stop when a peerintervenes on behalf of the student being bullied (Hawkins, Pepler,and Craig, 2001).

RSchool-based bullying prevention programs decrease bullying by up to25% (McCallion and Feder, 2013).

RThe reasons for being bullied reported most often by students werelooks (55%), body shape (37%), and race (16%) (Davis and Nixon,2010).

ROne out of every four students (22%) report being bullied during theschool year (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2015).

R19.6% of high school students in the US report being bullied at schoolin the past year. 14.8% reported being bullied online (Center for Disease Control, 2014).

R64 percent of children who were bullied did not report it; only 36percent reported the bullying (Petrosina, Guckenburg, DeVoe, andHanson, 2010).

RMore than half of bullying situations (57 percent) stop when a peerintervenes on behalf of the student being bullied (Hawkins, Pepler,and Craig, 2001).

RSchool-based bullying prevention programs decrease bullying by up to25% (McCallion and Feder, 2013).

RThe reasons for being bullied reported most often by students werelooks (55%), body shape (37%), and race (16%) (Davis and Nixon,2010).

YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCEIN OUR SCHOOL, OURCOMMUNITY AND OUR WORLD!

YOU CAN HELP BY:

•Reviewing your own behavior (if there is abullying behavior then change!)

•Not allowing yourself to be a victim of bullyingbehavior

•Helping when you see a bullying problem.