LivingBeyondYourself
LivingBeyondYourself
HusbandsEmpoweredfor Affection
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“Marriage is whenyou agree to spendthe rest of your lifesleeping in a roomthat’s too warm,beside someonewho’s sleeping in aroom that’s toocold.”
“Marriage is whenyou agree to spendthe rest of your lifesleeping in a roomthat’s too warm,beside someonewho’s sleeping in aroom that’s toocold.”
Ephesians 5:21
Ephesians 5:21
Submit to one another outof reverence for Christ.
Submit to one another outof reverence for Christ.
There is something inme that does not wantto submit to others.
There is something inothers that makes me notwant to submit to them.
There is something inme that does not wantto submit to others.
There is something inothers that makes me notwant to submit to them.
7 The sinful mind is hostileto God. It does not submitto God’s law, nor can it doso. 8 Those controlled bythe sinful nature cannotplease God.
7 The sinful mind is hostileto God. It does not submitto God’s law, nor can it doso. 8 Those controlled bythe sinful nature cannotplease God.
Romans 8:7-8
Romans 8:7-8
Romans 8:9-10
You, however, are controlled notby the sinful nature but by theSpirit, if the Spirit of God lives inyou. And if anyone does nothave the Spirit of Christ, he doesnot belong to Christ.
If you won’t get alongwith your spouse,
you won’t get
along with God.
If you won’t get alongwith your spouse,
you won’t get
along with God.
Marriageis animage ofChristand thechurch
Marriageis animage ofChristand thechurch
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32 This is a profoundmystery — but I amtalking about Christand the church.
32 This is a profoundmystery — but I amtalking about Christand the church.
God created marriage to alsodemonstrate the intimacybetween Christ and his church.
For your Maker is yourhusband — the LORDAlmighty is his name
For your Maker is yourhusband — the LORDAlmighty is his name
Isaiah 54:5
Isaiah 54:5
Israel’sIdolatry wasequated withadultery
Israel’sIdolatry wasequated withadultery
‘Return, faithless Israel,’declares the LORD, ‘I willfrown on you no longer, for Iam merciful,’ declares theLORD, ‘I will not be angryforever.
‘Return, faithless Israel,’declares the LORD, ‘I willfrown on you no longer, for Iam merciful,’ declares theLORD, ‘I will not be angryforever.
Jeremiah 3:12-14
Jeremiah 3:12-14
13 Only acknowledge yourguilt— you have rebelledagainst the LORD your God,you have scattered yourfavors to foreign gods…
14 “Return, faithless people,”declares the LORD, “for I amyour husband ...”
13 Only acknowledge yourguilt— you have rebelledagainst the LORD your God,you have scattered yourfavors to foreign gods…
14 “Return, faithless people,”declares the LORD, “for I amyour husband ...”
I am jealous for you with a godlyjealousy. I promised you to onehusband, to Christ, so that Imight present you as a purevirgin to him. 3 But I am afraidthat … your minds may somehowbe led astray from your sincereand pure devotion to Christ.
I am jealous for you with a godlyjealousy. I promised you to onehusband, to Christ, so that Imight present you as a purevirgin to him. 3 But I am afraidthat … your minds may somehowbe led astray from your sincereand pure devotion to Christ.
2 Corinthians 11:2-3
2 Corinthians 11:2-3
Hallelujah! For our Lord GodAlmighty reigns. 7 Let us rejoiceand be glad and give him glory!
For the wedding of the Lamb hascome, and his bride has madeherself ready.
Hallelujah! For our Lord GodAlmighty reigns. 7 Let us rejoiceand be glad and give him glory!
For the wedding of the Lamb hascome, and his bride has madeherself ready.
Revelation 19:6-7
Revelation 19:6-7
Wives, submit to your husbandsas to the Lord. 23 For the husbandis the head of the wife as Christ isthe head of the church, his body,of which he is the Savior. 24 Nowas the church submits to Christ,so also wives should submit totheir husbands in everything.
Wives, submit to your husbandsas to the Lord. 23 For the husbandis the head of the wife as Christ isthe head of the church, his body,of which he is the Savior. 24 Nowas the church submits to Christ,so also wives should submit totheir husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:22-24
Ephesians 5:22-24
25 Husbands, love your wives, justas Christ loved the church andgave himself up for her 26 to makeher holy, cleansing her by thewashing with water through theword, 27 and to present her tohimself as a radiant church, with-out stain or wrinkle or any otherblemish, but holy and blameless.
25 Husbands, love your wives, justas Christ loved the church andgave himself up for her 26 to makeher holy, cleansing her by thewashing with water through theword, 27 and to present her tohimself as a radiant church, with-out stain or wrinkle or any otherblemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbandsought to love their wives astheir own bodies. He who loveshis wife loves himself. 29 Afterall, no one ever hated his ownbody, but he feeds and caresfor it, just as Christ does thechurch— 30 for we are membersof his body.
28 In this same way, husbandsought to love their wives astheir own bodies. He who loveshis wife loves himself. 29 Afterall, no one ever hated his ownbody, but he feeds and caresfor it, just as Christ does thechurch— 30 for we are membersof his body.
31 “For this reason a man willleave his father and mother andbe united to his wife, and the twowill become one flesh.” 32 This isa profound mystery — but I amtalking about Christ and thechurch.
31 “For this reason a man willleave his father and mother andbe united to his wife, and the twowill become one flesh.” 32 This isa profound mystery — but I amtalking about Christ and thechurch.
Submissionis notsuppression!
Submissionis notsuppression!
For God loved the world somuch that he gave his one andonly Son, so that everyonewho believes in him will notperish but have eternal life.
For God loved the world somuch that he gave his one andonly Son, so that everyonewho believes in him will notperish but have eternal life.
John 3:16
John 3:16
Agape Love
This is how we know whatlove is: Jesus Christ laiddown his life for us.
This is how we know whatlove is: Jesus Christ laiddown his life for us.
1 John 3:16
1 John 3:16
Agape Love
Christ gavehimself tosanctify hischurch
Christ gavehimself tosanctify hischurch
25 Husbands, love your wives,just as Christ loved the churchand gave himself up for her 26 tomake her holy, cleansing her bythe washing with water throughthe word 27 and to present herto himself as a radiant church,without stain or wrinkle or anyother blemish, but holy andblameless.
25 Husbands, love your wives,just as Christ loved the churchand gave himself up for her 26 tomake her holy, cleansing her bythe washing with water throughthe word 27 and to present herto himself as a radiant church,without stain or wrinkle or anyother blemish, but holy andblameless.
What does it mean fora husband to love likeJesus?
•It is a championing love– it wins a wife’s heart
(over and over)
•It is a championing love– it wins a wife’s heart
(over and over)
How did Jesus love the church?
How did Jesus love the church?
•He spent time with her
•He won her trust
•He prayed for her
•He provided for her
•He encouraged her
•He wept with her
•He trusted her
•He spent time with her
•He won her trust
•He prayed for her
•He provided for her
•He encouraged her
•He wept with her
•He trusted her
“Would you love me
like Jesus now?”
Demand
Demean Dominate
Demand
Demean Dominate
What does it mean fora husband to love likeJesus?
•It is a cultivating love
•It is a cultivating love
28 In this same way, husbandsought to love their wives as theirown bodies. He who loves hiswife loves himself. 29 After all, noone ever hated his own body, buthe feeds and cares for it, just asChrist does the church— 30 for weare members of his body.
28 In this same way, husbandsought to love their wives as theirown bodies. He who loves hiswife loves himself. 29 After all, noone ever hated his own body, buthe feeds and cares for it, just asChrist does the church— 30 for weare members of his body.
Two sensitivities guide us intaking care of our bodies.
•we are sensitive to its NEEDS
•we are sensitive to its HURTS.
"Marriage is not wrecked by a blowoutbut rather by a slow leak – continuednegligence and inattention.”
"Marriage is not wrecked by a blowoutbut rather by a slow leak – continuednegligence and inattention.”
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What does it mean fora husband to love likeJesus?
• It is a connecting love
• It is a connecting love
31 “For this reason a manwill leave his father andmother and be united tohis wife, and the two willbecome one flesh.”
31 “For this reason a manwill leave his father andmother and be united tohis wife, and the two willbecome one flesh.”
“Marriage is neither heavennor hell;it is simply purgatory.”
“Marriage is neither heavennor hell;it is simply purgatory.”
- Abraham Lincoln
- Abraham Lincoln
33 However, each one ofyou also must love hiswife as he loves himself,and the wife mustrespect her husband.
33 However, each one ofyou also must love hiswife as he loves himself,and the wife mustrespect her husband.
Women that are difficult to lead:
•Wounded woman
•Wired Woman
•Wonder Woman
Application:
•Do you feel you are the mostimportant person in my life?
•Are there any activities in my lifeyou feel are more important thanyou are?
•Are there any special ways youbelieve I could better communi-cate how important you are tome?
Application:
•Do you feel you are the mostimportant person in my life?
•Are there any activities in my lifeyou feel are more important thanyou are?
•Are there any special ways youbelieve I could better communi-cate how important you are tome?