HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
WHAT DOES A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPLOOK LIKE?
It makes people in them happier and eases stress
They are realistic and flexible
Includes talking and listening
Includes taking care of your self
Fight fair
Compromise and give and take!
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Beginning stages vs. down the road
How to handle conflict
Outside issues
WHAT IS CONSIDERED UNHEALTHY?
Control – needing to know where you are at alltimes.
Lack of trust – forbidding you to have friends ofthe opposite sex.
Put downs
Being together 24-7/social isolation
Lying
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Obsessions
Instant attraction, unrealistic expectations
Fear of abandonment
Always thinking the other person is cheating
Need to be with the other person constantly
Showing up at their house, work, etc
Calling and/or texting non stop
Feeling as if they can’t live without the other person
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Threats, guilt trips and feeling pressured to stayin the relationship for the other person
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSWHAT TO DO IF YOURS IS?
Communicate your needs and expectationsclearly with your partner
Set boundaries
Look for ways change within the other personand yourself
Determine if the good outweighs the bad
Both of you need to be in agreement to makechange and move forward
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSHOW TO GET OUT
Make sure your support system (parents, friends)is aware and standing by your side
Talk with your counselor, social worker or othertrusted adult if need be
Be firm in your decision
Speak face to face and provide closure whenpossible
End all contact
“THE CASE OF THE EVER PRESENT EX”
You broke up with them
They broke up with you
If you’re over it
If you’re still hung up on them
LOVE OR INFATUATION
The relationship goes beyond feelings
Is this person your best friend?
Do you have similar goals?
Do you have the same family values?
Does this person accept you as yourself?
Does this person make you feel better about who youare?
Is this just a rebound relationship?
BEING HAPPY WITH YOURSELF
Appreciate the positives in your life
Learn to accept who you are on the inside and out
Keep yourself busy
Spend time with friends and family that bringout the best in you
Know that you are not alone
Love comes in all forms
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND SEX
37 Reasons For Not Having Sex…..
SEX MYTHS AND FACTS
Sex Myths
You can’t get pregnant if:
-it’s your first time
-you’re both virgins
-the guy pulls out before climax
-the girl takes a bath, douches or urinates after sex
-you are on your menstrual cycle
-if it doesn’t go all the way in
-if you use two condoms
The truth is in any of the above situations you could getpregnant
PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION
Abstinence
100% effective
PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION
Contraceptives
Condoms
85-98% effective
Manufacturer defect
Human error when applying
They can break during sex
PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION
Birth Control Pills/Shots
pill 92-99% effective
must take same time and every day
can be ineffective when taking antibiotics or certainmedications
is not always immediately effective once you begintaking it for the 1st time
does not protect against STD’s
PREGNANCY AND STD PREVENTION
Pulling out
50% effective for pregnancy
Does not protect against STD’s
Other concerns
FACTS ON STD’S
3 million teens will get diagnosed with an STDeach year
1 in 4 sexually active teens will get an STD
1 in 2 people will have an STD by age 25
STD’s can be transmitted and received withoutany symptoms.
Some STD’s are not curable leading to life longissues
STD’s increase risk for infertility, pelvicinflammatory disease and cancer.
FACTS ON STD’S
Gardisal-HPV vaccination
-protects against 4 types of HPV thatcommonly cause cancer or warts.
-However there are over 40 types of HPV- SoGardisal should not be your only form ofprotection against STDs
FACTS ON PREGNANCY
Less than 2% of teens choose adoption
Financial burdens and responsibilities
Misconceptions
Having a baby so that there will always be someonewho loves you
Having a baby to keep the other person around
Cute and fun
FACTS ON PREGNANCY
Father’s role
When you think you’re pregnant (but you’rereally not)
16 and Pregnant
SEX AND THE LAW
17 is the age of consent unless the adult is morethan 8 years older
Or the adult is a person of authority (coach,teacher, etc)
You are not legally able to give consent if you areintoxicated
REPUTATIONS AND RUMORS
Reputations are very easy to get and very hard toget rid of!
Double standards with guys and girls
Name calling activity